Everything in life has its own purpose and place…and that includes the harshest and fiercest critic that God may have allowed to come into your life.
Take for instance, it took the criticism and mockery of Peninah to provoke Hanah to pray out Prophet Samuel into existence…It took the criticism of your colleague at work to make you sit up all night and all day just to disprove him or her, it took the criticism of your spouse to make you learn how to dot your I’s and cross your T’s more carefully…It took the criticism of your friend to make you decide to live a more qualitative lifestyle. But if those were the only things critics do, then they would have had a seat of honor in the palace of good and noble deeds!
Critics certainly do more than that!
Yes, they lampoon you so as to demoralize you, they say things about you simply because they chose not to know much about you, they criticize you because they feel threatened by you, not knowing that your victory does not hurt theirs!
But in doing all those, the real motive of the critic is to get at you! And the good news is that you can choose to turn their mischief around whichever way you deem it fit for yourself. And for you to do that very effectively, there are 5 things you must know about your critics which they do not want you to know about. For example:
1.Your critics only remembered you that moment they talked about you.
Friend, this understanding will rescue you from the mental imprisonment that your critics would want their words to put you in. It will let you into the fact that you cannot afford to spend the whole of your day analyzing and discussing the words of your critics while your critic had already moved on to more profitable ventures. Interestingly, however, your critic wants you to think that he or she is on your case all the time so as to keep you continuously rattled and disorganized all day long.
Tip: Learn to pick whatever your critic had said only once. Correct anything you need to correct if it is a constructive criticism and discard the rest for good.
2.Your critics need your endorsement for their words to function in your life.
Your critics do not want you to know that without your mental and verbal endorsement of their criticism, their words would never have any potent effect on you. And guess what, they get very offended when you find out! Take for instance, when you see a mentally deranged person on the street hurling insults at someone, would those words have any great impact on you? Certainly not! And that is because you already know that the speaker is mentally challenged.
Tip: So, in your own life, when critics sit either in the comfy of their homes to analyze and criticize you, you must refuse to attach any great importance to their words simply because you already know that they do not know you enough to make those kinds of assertions about your person.
3. Your critics are fundamentally disadvantaged when it comes to who has better facts about “you”.
Please remember that no one knows you better than you know yourself. And because of that, no one can be a better opinion-molder concerning yourself more than your own very self.
And because your critics do not want you to know that simple fact, they dare to impose their ideas and opinions on you, they even dare to make ultimatums some time…simply because they want to box you into a corner, put a label on you, and seal you up for good. But I say God-forbid to that!
Tip: So, dare to let your critic know that opinion is the cheapest commodity ever known! Everyone can afford to give one. But the real truth of the matter is that not every opinion is correct. And because not every opinion is correct, the opinion of the subject-matter must be sought before conclusive assertions can be made.
And kindly remember, that that subject-matter is your humble self…So, learn to let your word be the final say-so on issues that bother on you.
4. Only you decide what is important to you.
Another truth which your critics would not want you to know about is that only you decide what is important to you. Only you decide what you must focus your attention on. Only you decide either to recognize or ignore the voice of another person in any conversation.
Tip: That is why you must know that in every discussion, there is a “third voice”. And that third voice decides what you attach importance to. If that third voice is the voice of a stranger and an enemy, fear creeps into your mind speedily but if that third voice is the voice of God in your heart, you will be in a better position to say this to your critic:
“I know who I am…I am the king’s kid…Fearfully and wonderfully made…I refuse to believe your wrong opinion of me today”.
5. You can write your own ticket with your mouth
A good reason why your critic may not want you to know that you can write your own ticket with your own mouth is that knowing that guarantees your freedom. Knowing that sets you free from his or her opinion. Knowing that brings you to the place where you can decide at any point in time to ask this rhetorical question:
“Whose report would you believe?”
Tip: Well, I don’t know about you, but I choose to believe the report of the Lord…I will listen to the report of the Lord…I will honor the report of the Lord….And that report says I am healed, freed and filled with the wonders of his presence. May that also be your own testimony…Cheers!
Over to you!
It is now time to hear your feedback…Kindly let me know if there are other truths I have left out. I certainly would love to hear from you!
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